The more you try to force yourself to think of happy thoughts, the more frustrated you will become. Try it and let me know. Positive thinking is a great concept but it is not so much about focusing on the manifesting such thoughts but more so of how do you train your mind to see the positive aspect of whatever situation that you might find yourself in. Our brains are designed to keep us safe therefore anything that has the potential to jeopardise that will be met with an equal, if not more, form of resistance. So if you are in the pursuit of finding your happiness, it might be in your best interest to not consult your brain too much. Of course, assess the risk to life endangerment and stuff like that. But once those are done, mute it and take action. And if you then realise that it is not for you, pick yourself up and move on to the next adventure.
A lot of times people tend to get ahead of themselves when it comes to their perception of the plight of other people. Even if they have seen such things a lot, there is always wisdom in holding off your judgement and thoughts in relation to that. You don’t know what you don’t know. So stop acting like you do. Unless of course you do, not based off some guessing and assuming but on actual facts. Realise that each situation is different and unique. That although on the surface, they might all seem the same, when you break down to the details, there is always more to each story. So it is your duty to consciously suspend your immediate reaction to situations which you do not have the full context of. And please, do not buy into the herd mentality. That is just detrimental to what we want to achieve here. Similar to you wanting your story to be heard, afford others the same and only then offer your conclusion and possible solutions, if requested of course.
If you think that success has a look, and that it has to appear a certain way, then you will always be in the quest of finding it. Your version will not be the same as my version or anyone else. And the sooner you internalise that, the sooner it will be for you to achieve it. Whatever it is that you want to pursue, as long as you are giving your attention and dedication to it, over a continued period of time, you will, sooner or later, get it. It is okay to not be clear on what it is that you are exactly after. Continue your search, while at the same time make sure that your basic needs are met. Do whatever is required for you to fulfil that. That is your investment. But just remember this, stop comparing yourself with others. You create your story, your version of success.
The world pays attention to people who do big things. Those who overcame and conquered the tribulations in life, who never settles for less, who believes that limitation only exists in the mind. If you want to play it small and hope to have the big successes, you need to sit yourself down and do a bit of soul searching because that formula simply does not work. Going down that path will only result in sleepless nights and lots of misery. It is also much more exciting and frankly easier for someone to share about something big compared to one that is typical and mediocre. Of course, to do big things, you would need guts and boldness, which everybody has the potential to will it forward. In doing so, it is in no whatsoever way a guarantee to your intended success story but the odds are sure to be on your side compare to you playing it small. So do big things.
The idea of being entitled to something is the thing that will knock you down without you realising what hit you. It does not matter what you have going for you right now, but the moment you let whatever that is get the better of you, and you start to feel that you are entitled to something because of all of that, you will start to lose your edge. That state of mind that keeps you from becoming too comfortable and complacent is what you need to be at your best form. So if you start realising that you get offended easily because you are not being given the deference or preferential treatment, respect that your accomplishments or position in society entails you, that is a big warning sign for you to get yourself back to the ground before you experience a very rude awakening of your demise.
If you want something in life, you need to work for it. You need to do all that you can in order to get what you want. Unless you’re a business owner with paid employees, then you better realise that it’s no one else’s job to help you get to your desired outcome. There’s nothing in it for them. Just because you think helping others is a good thing, does not mean that everyone else shares the same thinking as you. Even if they do, their priorities might be different. So you are better of looking out for yourself. Help yourself to get to where you want to be. You will be the most vested in the success of it. And the best part is, you have the power to control the amount and quality of work that is put into your goal. Ultimately, your own success heavily depends on you. Do not put the responsibility onto someone else. You cannot use that excuse anymore.
A lot of people know that to achieve their goals and dreams, there would be risks and some sacrificing involved. That is very clear. They are not unaware of it. That there is a price to pay. But knowing and being willing to act on it is a totally separate thing. Just because you know, does not mean that you are willing to do it. And that is what usually separates the ones who are successful and those who are not. Sometimes the odds are just not on your side. The risk of giving up what you already have in order to hopefully get something that you desire might just be too big for you. There is no guarantee when risks are involved. And most people want assurance. That they will not be on the losing side. So they wait for the ideal situation or when many people are also doing to get involved. And by that time, they would perhaps be much better off not doing it at all.