If you want to be included or a part of something, you cannot just sit around and wait to be invited. You need to get up and out of your comfort zone or high ‘throne’ and offer your help. Simple as that. Do not expect others to read your mind and ask you to do something. If you really want to help, go do it. If you do not, then stop putting the blame on others. If for some reason you are shy to offer your help, then I suggest you get over that mental hurdle and simply do it. A genuine help is always welcome. And again, if for God knows what reason that your help is not warranted or even appreciated, take a moment, take a deep breath, pause and then exhale all the hurt and negative feelings away.