When you have been conditioned to live in this world avoiding conflict, being careful to not step on other people’s toes, not poking the hive, it is only natural that you do not take to chaos very kindly. However, you should not let that be an excuse for you to continue being that way. Chaos or at least some form of it is bound to happen to you, regardless of how you try to avoid it. The best way for you is to condition yourself to being okay with it. Start with disrupting your daily routine. Try a different route. Eat something different for lunch today. Get yourself in manageable uncomfortable situations. Slowly increase the discomfort level. The more you do this, the better prepared you are for when situations demand you to be able to get through the chaos that life will eventually bring.
Know that you are an inspiration or a source of motivation to someone out there in this world. It could be to millions, thousands, hundreds or even just one person. Someone is watching you. It could be someone you know or perhaps not at all. And they are rooting for you. Because when you win, they win too. When you win, you inspire them to win themselves. You make reaching the goal or any dream possible, achievable. Sometimes people need an external source of encouragement to accomplish great things, and by you winning, you give them permission to do the same or more. So never think that you are alone in this world. Someone out there is counting on you to succeed, to not give up, to persevere, to get in the best shape that you possibly can, to be the best that you can possibly become. So if ever for some reason you do not feel like doing it for yourself, then do it for those who are counting on you in silence.
Your dreams, your visions, your goals, your ideas, your aspirations are all specially and exclusively given to you. It is perhaps impossible to find someone else with those exact same ones. They are both your gifts and assignments if you so choose to accept in taking them on in this life. To have courage and walk on the path that will lead you to eventually claiming the prize that was intended and reserved for you. The only thing that is needed is for you to do whatever is necessary to achieving them. That means you do the things that you do not want to if you have a choice, you tune out those who say you cannot achieve whatever you have set out for and you persevere in the focus of the mission. They are yours for the taking. They even have your name on them. All you need to do is put in the work.
The more you compare yourself to others, the more sad your life will become. It might not happen in an instance, but if you continue to do so time and time again, eventually, you will experience it. The need to always be better than others, not wanting to lose or be left out, are all thieves of your joy. The joy of being and doing as is, without any external pressure. Imagine how good it feels to not need to compare yourself with others but instead allowing the essence of doing or being in the same or similar situation motivate you to be the best that you can be. Realising that the true battle is and will always be with your own self. To becoming a better version of you, day by day.
To achieve something, you need to give something in return. That is how the system works. No successful people gets to be where they are without giving something in return. The question is what are you willing to do to achieve that what you desire. How willing are you to do what needs to be done. Most of the time, you already know what to do. So let’s not waste time any longer by reading more of the similar content hoping that it will all finally click, make sense and thus catapult you to action. It is not going to happen. The fact is, you are what is holding you back. Your fear of stepping into your own power is hindering you from succeeding. It is okay to be scared, to have fear. But if you are going to let that rule your life, stopping yourself from taking the actions that you already know needs to be taken, then what kind of life is that going to be?
Let’s be honest. You know what you have to do. But for some reason or another, you are not doing them. You have this big dreams that you say you want to achieve, but my guess is that they are something that you can probably live comfortably without. You have no real need to achieve them, they are just some feel good perhaps even well intentioned but not anywhere near a life or death kind of situation. So you come up with these seemingly valid sexy excuses, delaying execution as long as possible. But you know full well what you are doing. I call them sexy because they can appear very convincing indeed. The creativity, wit and passion that you bring into convincing yourself of the validity of your excuses or what others might call ‘reasons’ are very impressive. This back and forth can continue for as long as you want, but whenever you are ready to stop this nonsense and actually give yourself a fighting shot at your dreams, know that all it takes is for you to do what needs to be done, in spite of all of that sexy excuses.
Be it money, effort or time, whatever it is that you put into the various aspects of your life, make sure that you are getting back 10 times more. Anything less, leave it alone. What this does, is that this will allow you to maximise the quality of your life. So be conscious of what you are investing your resources into. The money that you spent, make sure it comes back to you 10 times. It does not necessarily need to be of monetary return. It can also be in the form of intangibles. Remember that even the little things count. If you are ever in a dilemma between two options even after passing through your criteria, weigh them against the 10x rule, whichever achieves that or more, you have a winner. And if both meet the criteria, then pick whichever one, it doesn’t matter because either ways you win.